In 2015 I was living in London at the height of my successful corporate career. I’d followed in my father’s footsteps into the IT industry and was in my third Senior Management role in a global firm, each time being the only woman at that level.
According to society's definition of success, I ‘had it all’ - financial independence, stimulating work, designer clothes, fabulous holidays - I was surrounded by decadence and luxury.
I was nicknamed ‘The Boss’ - hyper-independent, emotionally cold and strategically unavailable. I’d adapted to thrive in a male-dominated world that wasn’t built for me.
By night I was a semi-professional samba dancer, dripping in colourful sequins and jewels, as I craved an outlet for my flamboyant femininity.
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When it came to my intimate life, I attracted weak, submissive men I didn’t respect. I knew they weren’t my match, but I stayed anyway seeking their attention and validation - diluting my truth, negotiating my worth and secretly craving more.
My heart was guarded by a fortress of armour - men came and left, but made no real impact.
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On the surface I was ‘unfuckwithable’ but inside I felt lost, confused and alone.
I risked everything
to find my Truth
I knew deep down, underneath the mask, there was so much more available to me ~ in life and in love
One Thursday night, after 4 days of debauchery with friends visiting from Dubai and 3 days of holding it all together in the office, I was alone in my house, shaky and depleted, staring at the full moon through the window.
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That week I had bare-face lied to colleagues in my serious corporate role - again - about my weekend. Nobody knew that the woman who chaired the Tuesday meeting had spent the previous four days dancing til dawn, barely sleeping and living a double life as a wild party girl. No one in that office knew who I actually was and some days, neither did I.
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I was so tired of the lying. Not only to my colleagues, but to myself.
I opened the window and howled at the moon. I finally let myself feel the grief of what had been building for months: the one-night stands that left me feeling used, the empty conversations on the party scene and the quiet yet persistent ache for something with depth and meaning.
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“There’s more to life than this” I thought. Cliché I know, but it came from somewhere deep within and cracked me open that night.
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Standing there under the moonlight, undone, in a moment of stillness, I felt unsure about the future but I knew two things with absolute certainty: I could not tell one more lie. And I was going to have to burn the whole thing down to see what arose from the ashes.
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A few days later I quit my job and a few months later I left London.
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I embarked on a quest through India and South East Asia, meeting people from all over the world and immersing myself in yoga, meditation, dance, bodywork and all sorts of spiritual practices.
At the foothills of the Himalayas (in the birthplace of Yoga), I took a course in Classical Tantra with a Romanian school. At the same time, a man I’d met travelling showed me a simple breathing technique next to the River Ganges - time stopped, my physical form dissolved, we merged into oneness, I was tingling all over, life force surging through my veins, heart blasted wide open - it was beyond anything I had experienced.
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I knew my life would be different from that moment on. We travelled through the Himalayas together for a month, making love under apple trees in orchards and such, and I began to understand love without attachment.
"I don't want to smash the patriarchy, I want to be the open, clear, gentle space where it can put down all of its weapons and weep its
generations of grief" ~ Shanti Zimmerman
For the next decade my devotion to the Tantric path took me on wild inner and outer adventures. I was tested in every way and rebuilt my life several times over - managing an off-grid community and retreat centre in Portugal, living deep in nature in Costa Rica, journeying with plant medicines in Central America, building community and facilitating retreats and ceremonies everywhere I went.
I experienced a multitude of relationships and shifted from living on the surface of everything to getting deeply, uncomfortably intimate with all of it.
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Relationally, everything shifted. I stopped confusing lust with love and found my self-worth within, no longer seeking external validation and approval from men. I remembered the precious wisdom and sacredness of my sexuality. I dismantled the armour around my heart I had mistaken for strength but was secretly protecting me from real love and intimacy.
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From this journey, Erotic Liberation for the New Earth was born - an inner and outer (r)evolution for our current times. A vow to live and love fully - erotically alive, soulfully aligned and wildly expressed.
Today as a Certified VITA™ Love, Sex & Relationship Coach and trauma-informed Tantric-Somatic Facilitator, I support men, women and couples through 1:1 Mentorship, Tantric Immersions, workshops and retreats both online and in-person internationally. I guide people into the depth, devotion and erotic aliveness they sense is possible but haven't yet fully claimed.
I came to Rachael longing for deep soulmate love, but I didn’t know if I could truly hold it.
From the moment we opened our container, things began shifting. It was pure magic. Her presence is powerful, sacred, grounded in truth and every session felt like ceremony. We unravelled conditioning, released old fears and I opened to a level of love I didn’t know was possible. While we were still working together, I met my current partner - a level of love and connection I had never experienced before. And because of the deep preparation I did with Rachael, I was ready. Truly ready to receive and hold it. She helped me navigate some of the most tender, triggering moments in this connection. When my deepest fears were activated, she helped me stay, with myself, with love and with Him. I truly owe so much to Rachael. She is the real deal, fierce, loving, no-bullshit and wildly devoted to your liberation. If you're thinking about working with her… trust yourself. Say yes!
She will meet you, love you, and help you become who you were always meant to be.
~ Donna Mariella, Spain - Awakening, Leadership & Sexuality Coach, Jan 2025
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